Emotions
Your Gut

How To Understand Your Emotions So You Can Move Forward

I don’t know about you but emotions can sometimes feel over whelming; that’s because we have had little to no education in how to understand and work with our emotions. They can feel bad, and what we do when they feel bad is we want to distract ourselves. We exercise to get rid of it, exorcise it. We want to drink a glass of wine so we can dampen it. We overeat or watch Netflix so we can distract ourselves from it. We just don’t want to experience it.

Your Emotions Are Channels Of Information

Contrary to belief, emotions don’t cause behaviour; they prepare you for a variety of actions. The emotion itself doesn’t cause the action. Instead, what they’re doing is giving you channels of information and suggesting some behaviours that might go with that.

One of the wonderful ways to think of your emotions is that they are functional.

When I hear emotion come from my clients, I think, “ah, they’re functioning.” I don’t think how can you conquer that emotion? How can you get rid of that emotion? How can I reassure them around that emotion or talk them out of that emotion? No, emotions provide really important information, and in the case of the so-called negative emotions, even the ickiness, the bad feeling of them a little bit makes you motivated to get rid of it by taking action. So they are motivating behaviour, but not dictating a specific behaviour.

Clarifying Your ‘Icky’ Emotions

Jealousy? Evolutionarily speaking tells you there is a rival out there and that you should be vigilant towards that rival.
Sadness? Let’s call a behaviour time out. Things aren’t going as expected. Things are kind of disappointing and maybe we ought to conserve our resources and quit just throwing resources out.
Anger? Anger prepares you to defend things you care a great
deal about.
Guilt? That you violated a set of values.
Heaviness? There is something going on here; maybe I should think it through.

Your Strategy For Getting ‘Unstuck’ When Self-Doubt/Fear Arises

Name something that you want.
State clearly what the negative voice says to hold you back.
What would you guess the voice wants from you?
Can you create a dialogue with the voice (to work with you in a partnership, like a friend)?
Can you ask the voice how it can help you and how much you appreciate and value the voice?
What solution requests came from dialoging and listening to yourself?
Allow yourself space and time to move towards a main agreement. What further supporting agreements do you need in place to set yourself up for success?

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Emotions
Your Gut

How To Understand Your Emotions So You Can Move Forward

Your Emotions Are Channels Of Information

Clarifying Your ‘Icky’ Emotions

Your Strategy For Getting ‘Unstuck’ When Self-Doubt/Fear Arises

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